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Post by angelingothlolita on Mar 30, 2007 23:56:39 GMT -5
Ok... Usually, I do not ask help on things but I think that I seriously need someone else’s opinion on some of this stuff... There's two things that have been getting me down and causing more stress, not like I do not already have enough with college coming up! None the less, the first problem is kind of minor but it is driving me insane. There is this little boy, I think he is a middle schooler, and he keeps getting on my nerves. Every since that movie, "Talladega Nights" came out, he has been calling me "milk truck"! Normally, I wouldn't mind, and at first I didn't. Until he and everyone continued on with it and now it has gotten just plain out rude. I ask them to stop but they won't. Go on and laugh at it you guys but it is seriously starting to hurt my feelings. Even when I try to tell these people that it hurts my feelings they do not listen. I am pondering resorting to the same childish thing they are and coming up with some stupid names for them that will embarrass them, but I do not know if that is the right thing to do... So... Yea.... The second problem made me cry tonight... You see, I have these two friends, Amber and Alycia... I care a lot about them but they do not get along... Or rather it is Amber who is always starting stuff with Alycia and Alycia’s two little twin sisters whom I have come to love like my own sisters. Anyway, every time I go to the 'rink (skateingrink) Amber is always saying this and this and this about the sisters. Today they tried saying that they tried to pick a fight with their little cousin, of whom i do not think that little girl was their cousin. Well, Alycia gets upset and begins to cry so I go to comfort her like I would anyone. Don, the owner, calls Alycia to the office. She told me she won't go without me. So, I go with her to comfort her. She clings to me the whole time Don is fussing at Amber. He tells her to leave Alycia and the twins alone and she agrees and skated back off. After she left I told Don it isn't just this time she did this, but every time they are up there. Don says "ok, if she does anything else tell me." I nod and Alycia and I go back out.. Well I be damned if as soon as I got out there Amber started cussing me out calling me a two-faced bitch. I try to explain to her she had other cousin, not the younger one, to comfort her, so I was comforting Alycia because she needed me. But I couldn't say it, She just kept bitching me out and I just stood there and took it like I always do from anyone. Don pulled us back into his office again and told her if she says one more thing to me she will be suspended for life. So, while I was in the back talking to Alycia and calming her down (because she was also still upset where her boyfriend broke up with her), Amber and her two cousins leave... Now I feel torn... I have no idea what to do... I do not like giving up on friendships, but Amber starts way too much stuff when it is not called for... Some help? Please?
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Post by CHANGEME on Mar 31, 2007 0:42:51 GMT -5
Well, I don't mean to sound harsh, but it sounds to me like you just need to get yourself some new friends. ^_^;
...I don't get the milk truck one, though. Never saw Talladega Nights. :/
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Post by angelingothlolita on Mar 31, 2007 1:15:13 GMT -5
I havn't seen it eaither... But obviouslly they use it to refure to a woman with large breasts...
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Post by CHANGEME on Mar 31, 2007 9:46:49 GMT -5
Oh. Then that's very rude. Kick him in the crotch.
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Post by EJP on Mar 31, 2007 15:57:50 GMT -5
Shit, should have seen this sooner. Well, I have some experience with both cituations. The first was, there was a girl in my Earth Science class with large breast and every immature, unmanner, bitch ass buster called her Tiggels. Truthfuly, I've used the word and have even gone as far as to make a character with that name. But I was polite and never reffered to her as that other than in examples such as these. Now, I hope you don't walk down the path she took. She just accepted it and ended up becoming quite slutty even though when I met her she was already like that so... ya. Thruthfully I don't know what to do about it other than what you can do to get back at them. You could always play the "You wish you had a girl with these" card or go after them with the classics " Your just say that because you know you'll never see them" "you say that because you are insecur with your sexuality" and I think you can figure out the rest on your own or PM/IM me about them. I have years and years of experience with insults and comebacks. Sorry if I couldn't be of anymore help with this one.
Now for your bad friend. Kainus, I, and well... alot of the classic members of the EAB know about this one. The Titan Bob story or as I like to call it, the Pip case. Titan Bob (Pip) was a dick. He always tried to be popular and would do anything to do so, even to go as far as insulting his few friends (Me and Kainus but mostly just me since I had some classes with him and I'm not at all popular). He flirted with just about every attractive girl in his classes, which turned out funny seeing how one of them, I ended up becoming friends with while he was just an annoying guy, even if they had boyfriends already (Even if they where in the class) and he constantly demeaned girls online and off. Which is how he got banned from the EAB. Now the only thing that would surprise you about this dick was the fact that no one ever kicked his ass or even started a fight with him (He was a wimp-po-ling and was a headlock away from being someone's bitch). Now the only way we ended up dealing with him was to get rid of him. He was banned from the EAB, blocked on all IM accounts, and killed. Just kiding, he moved away in the end which at that point he became a total pain in the ass.
Now my addvice is simple to deal with your bad friend. Ditch them, ditch them fast, and never look back until you have hard evidence that they have really changed. Some people just have a rude bug up there ass which causes them to be total jerks. Those people need to be ditched. Don't just let her be your one friend that everyone hates. Which most groups of friends have truthfuly. Just think about her, observe her, think just why do you keep hanging around her or why she just keeps hanging aroun you? Your not using her are you? Or is she using you? Thruthfuly I used Pip because he had an X-box, and would give me a ride home seeing how I had to wait 1 hour and 15 minutes after school for ride if not longer everyday back in high school (This was offcourse back in the day when I could wait like a statue for things instead of just walking the long distant home). So think, observe, and most likely ditch her and have her be dead to you.
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Post by LotusBlackfire on Apr 1, 2007 1:27:37 GMT -5
My advice which is gonna sound violent because it is, next time that punk starts up saying that kinda stuff, back hand him infront of the class. In my opinion your first mistake was telling everyone that it hurt your feelings, that just fed the fire and made you an easier target, if you do something drastic like that most likely everyone will be so shocked they wont know how to react to it and should leave you alone
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Post by Teh Donut on Apr 1, 2007 2:50:35 GMT -5
Actually Lotus, those with any manner of concern for the feelings of others would have stopped at the second or third instance she told them to stop. (Second or third because everyone's an ass to some degree, and none of us stop on the first. None of us.) You telling them repeatedly to stop and them not doing so? That makes it harrassment. Report them. Go to a teacher, the principal...if outside school, go to their parents with the threat to sue, or call your friendly neighborhood law enforcement on them for such a thing (I'm sure EJP can give you some legal grounds to make this possible).
If going through appropriate channels doesn't work...feel free to backhand his ass with a compliment of "bitch, please, this milk truck don't stop at your house," and move along. He and his words aren't even worth your time to give even a first thought.
Your friends? You gotta cut someone loose, and be firm about it. My dad once told me that life is full of times when you gotta let go of things that hold you back, and look for things that'll move you forward. Or something like that. In any case, friends like that will only hold you back and be a burden to you. You don't need that burden.
And be firm! Believe in your convictions! There's a time to be coy and take the shit flung at you, and there's a time to stand up for yourself, and fling the shit back. You need to march up to Amber and tell her in plain English, "Either cut the crap with Alycia, or I'm cutting my friendship with you," and be prepared to follow through with that promise. You have to believe it yourself. That's all there is to it. Sometimes, you just have to choose one friend over another; such is the hand you've been dealt.
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Post by EJP on Apr 1, 2007 4:07:10 GMT -5
Legal addvice ey? Well... I'm not all that good with harrassment. But to let you know these kids that are calling you that, you can go at them with sexual harrassment. If you talk to the school about these kids and what they are doing it should take care of it because, to my knowlege, sexual harrassment in the school or the work place always haves a threat of sueing on the minds of the people in charge and they'll always want to cover their ass. Once and if you go to them and tell them "this is what happening and I want it to stop" then you have alot more ground to stand on from a legal "I'm so mad I could sue" standpoint. But thats at work and School. In public, things suck to my knowledge because if you have no proof (Many Wittnesses, audio/video recordings), then you have nothing. Now legaly if they were to touch you, anywhere, then you have an assault case even if its just a simple assault case, but I think you knew that and I think you know about sexual assault so I wont go into it.
Now, I wouldn't suggest beating this kid up seeing how your older than him/them and it'll make you the badguy. So if you are to resort to violence, get someone else to do it (Boyfriend if not only for threats) or sniping tactics such as Water gun/balloons from behind a bush or something if not worse. NO B.B. guns or paintball guns because you'll get in a hell of alot of trouble, to my knowlege anyway, unless you have some long range ones and cover. I know all about sniping, I have books and have seen the things on the history channel about it. Also don't forget Trues addvice of just hitting him in his sac, enough kicks to any man/boy's balls and they'll change their tune, if they know whats good for them or unless their into that sort of thing.... which would be very rare at a young age to my knowledge.
Well I hope I was more helpful. Its funny that it isn't until someone mentions legal addvice that I acctual give it. Man my mind is all messed up.
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Post by angelingothlolita on Apr 1, 2007 7:47:35 GMT -5
Lol well just to let you guys know, this isn't happening at school. I'm not a middle schooler, i'm a senior in high school. This kid is a middle schooler. Also, believe me, if I wasn't so much older than him I would hit him, but I am afraid I might get charged on like child harassment or something. As for comeing back with come backs of my own, I tried it... I said, "The only reason you keep makeing fun of them is because you know that you'll never be able to have any fun with them!" That's when he replied with, "I don't want to have anything to do with any boobs that big anyway!" and skated off... Grrrr. That kid ticks me off. Jamie hates my boobs and I do too and then he has to go and make me feel even worse about them. Also, huns, I would have my fiancee go up to him and say something.... Only bad thing is.... He is up Canada!!! Thousands of miles away from the 'rink. Oh, and EJP is right. Since it is a public place, I cannot do much of anything to the kid...
As for the friend problem.... Blue, I think she already knows it so I am not going to go up to her and sya it because it might start more stuff. Amber is the type of girl that relies on fists before words... And she's kinda.... pleasentlly plump... So lets see... Me, a little 5'0" tall and weighs 120 aginst a girl who is 5'6" tall and around 200... hmmm... not that I am afraid to fight her but I know a looseing battle when I see it.. So, I'd just rather not say anything to her. Now, what I am afraid of is her starting stuff again and she calling me that again and ahuge fight brakeing out... Because if a fight does brake out all mine and Alycia's friends are jumping in and probably all of Amber's and her cousin's friends... So it'll end up a battle royal... I can see it now.... The whole skateingrink turned into bloody battle... That's be funny... =D
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Post by Teh Donut on Apr 1, 2007 15:27:58 GMT -5
*Laughs* Actually, your comeback worked. "Well, *blah blah blah* anyway!" is the comeback of the loser, unable to come up with anything, so they try to pass it off like it doesn't matter to them. Humorous, actually... Meh, we gave our advice, and it's up to you to take it or leave it. I'm no one for pacifism in the face of injustice, so I'm leaving with this; if you want anything done with your friends, you'll have to do something about it and face up to someone. Amber's throwing her weight around, so to speak; you know she's bigger than you, and she knows you know, so she's using that to her advantage. Just don't let it be your disadvantage. If you do finally decide to confront her, take a crowbar or something, I don't know...just make it obvious you mean business and won't take any crap. Trust me, even people like Amber have a secret inner respect for people who have the backbone to face them in the eye. (story alert, avert your eyes...) Case in point; a couple years back, I was a 5'10", 145lb twig of a Junior, with glasses to boot. For a few days, every day after track practice this one football dude and his buddy, both of them together probably weighing as much as a truck and a couple inches taller than even my relatively tall self, would rag on me after practice for about a minute as I was walking home. After a couple days (and one particularly tiring workout), I finally decided to come back with a retort. I remember it well, them turning out homosexual insults, and then the words, "You go haul your fat ass on a 9 mile run up a fucking mountain, and then I'll give a damn about your views on sexual preferences," coming from my own mouth. He asked if I wanted to start something. I told him I was ready any time he could manage to haul his tub of lard across the street, and continued on my way home. A couple minutes later, he and his buddy pulled up and hopped out of their car. I readied myself to fight them (meaning, I sat my workout clothes and mp3 player somewhere safe and began preparing a speech to my parents about why I'm coming home bruised and bloodied). The entire time, we're exchanging words, and I'm making it clear to him I'm ready to at least try to kick his ass. We eventually came to an understanding, and he drove off, and I continued on my way home, neither side throwing a punch. He never bothered me again. (Maybe it was the unruly hair and the kickboxing stance, but we came to an understanding... ) The problem with the middle schooler will work itself out if you just ignore it; steel yourself and pretend he's not even there. My point is, the problem with your friends won't go away unless you take some action. If you're too afraid to confront her, fine; just slowly and quietly drop her from your life and make some new friends to replace her. People like that aren't friends, they're leeches. Just pick them off and toss them aside.
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Post by angelingothlolita on Apr 4, 2007 6:26:57 GMT -5
Thanks hun! That actually helps a lot... I have no idea what I am going to do but... I'll do something... Eaither slowly pick her off or if she says one more thing to me tell her to bring it outside after the night is done and bring my katana... I won't try to ultimatelly hurt her but atleast the katana will put us somewhat even... I'll probably just keep it sheethed the whole time.... hmmm.. ~shrugs~ anyway! Thanks again! And I will just ignore the little prick who makes fun of my boobs...
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Post by Enigma on Apr 4, 2007 7:02:42 GMT -5
Kill'em.. it -ALWAYS- works.. then run to Canada.. i'll take you in...
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Post by angelingothlolita on Apr 4, 2007 11:27:37 GMT -5
lmao. Why don't you do it? After all, that little dude was makeing fun of your FIANCEE'S boobs... >.>
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Post by EJP on Apr 4, 2007 12:08:45 GMT -5
Thanks hun! That actually helps a lot... I have no idea what I am going to do but... I'll do something... Eaither slowly pick her off or if she says one more thing to me tell her to bring it outside after the night is done and bring my katana... I won't try to ultimatelly hurt her but atleast the katana will put us somewhat even... I'll probably just keep it sheethed the whole time.... hmmm.. ~shrugs~ anyway! Thanks again! And I will just ignore the little prick who makes fun of my boobs... Thats a really bad idea to show up with your sword. If you do that you'll bring an ass load of trouble for yourself. I may not know the laws over there but I do no that can't be that far off from the ones over here. If you do bring your katana, you could be charged with.... wait your under 18 still, even worse. If a cop was to see you holding that sword outside of your house, you could be arrested for carrying a weapon. You should know all the other charges that could be brought against you aswell so I'd addvise you against showing up with the sword or any weapon. Now if you want to show up with something to with something without getting arrest. You could show up with a Tazzer or Pepper sray as long as the tazzer wasn't one of those shooting ones because you need a liesense to have one, but thats for over here and I don't know the laws over there. You could probaly get away with having a baseball bat or any other sports club, stick, or thing to hit something with. As for the kids making fun of your chest, remember when insulting or hittting them, aim for low blows.
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Post by The Crow on Apr 4, 2007 14:03:20 GMT -5
I am an ex assed and an ex ass, so I understand both sides of her story. Never just say 'Stop, that hurts my feelings.' or anything to the like. IT fuels us and makes us want to hurt you more. Our u;timate goal is either you do something, or cry. If you show no signs of wanting to do anything aboput it then we want to make you cry, as a sort of victory for us. If you show signs, or actually hit us we will be happy and stop, most of the time. We have all been on the recieving end of a bully, and most of us who do as I did just want to know that you can stand up to bullies. I should know, I was one. I have since then calmed down and stopped picking fights, but I will fight if I have to, or see the cause to be justified.
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