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Post by Beanybag on May 31, 2008 21:27:42 GMT -5
(Removed due to vanity...)
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Post by This One on Jun 1, 2008 0:14:15 GMT -5
First of all, the best advice I can give is go see a professional. I assume you've already talked to a psychiatrist if you're being medicated for depression, but it's likely that they can help you better than any of the members (including myself) on EAB.
Having said that, I think that what you're experiencing is not actual "love", but rather a chemical imbalance or something of the like. Something like Bipolar II (from what I understand about the disorder), etc., might explain your heightened emotions and the crash following. Now I'm in no way qualified to diagnose you, but this kind of behavior is not normal and it is certainly not real love, at least not in the sense that I know "love".
If this really is some mental disorder, it's likely that you're feeling paranoia when you say that others around you are having their hearts crushed with your failure to return the "love" that you sewed in them. I'm sure there are some that have liked, and possibly even loved you, but personally I find it hard to believe that your best friend would have homosexual feelings for you without having had these leanings previously. Best friends generally do not express sexual love emotions toward each other simply because of the fear the other would not return their feelings and their relationship would be ruined. Now, brotherly love is entirely possible and is completely healthy and necessary for a best-friend-type relationship. My main point is this: don’t get exceptionally worked up over the feeling that you’ve broken several hearts unless these people have actually confessed their love to you; it seems to me like you might be miscalculating your own powers of seduction.
As I said previously, I’m in no way qualified to give you any type of medical advice, so seek a professional about this problem. Also, if anyone has contradicting ideas to mine, it’s likely that they would be more suited to explain; see, I’ve never given advice on something like this before. Still, I hope this was able to help you some.
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Post by Beanybag on Jun 1, 2008 12:41:33 GMT -5
I said seemingly straight guy. He wasn't actually straight, he was bi. And yes, I actually got him to confess love for me, it's horrible. After this mess got out, a lot of our friends ended up finding out about us. He was ok with coming out as bi, but I felt a lot more ashamed.
Another thing is I really hate psychiatrists. I would rather talk to a friend but often times they aren't suited to deal with my problem. I just don't handle telling my problems to a random professional too well. Trust problem I guess. >_o
I still go about once a month though, I'll see what he has to say. x.x Thank you so much for that though.
edit: looking at Bipolar II I would probably agree to that, it seems surprisingly accurate. x.o I just don't think I get that manic.
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_c0dz
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I lost my mind in the color of your eyes
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Post by _c0dz on Jun 4, 2008 15:31:58 GMT -5
Ah dude. >_o
To add to what he's said about me, I've always been bi, I just didn't know what to do, until it became apparent that you had feelings for me. You, in no way, are what turned me bi, although you are the first male I've had feelings for.
As for the whole 'needing love' thing, me and Michelle will always be there, even if you can't feel it. I just wish you knew how much we care >_o
That's really all I want to say on here, I'll talk to you about it on MSN..
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Post by Veros on Jun 5, 2008 13:46:36 GMT -5
OMG. I'm not the only bi guy on here any more. Even worse; I'm not the only bi guy on here who's name starts with a C. But anywho... I'm not sure how I can help; I'm not great at giving social advice. I mess up social interactions all the time. All I know is; I stay out of relationships as much as I can - cause of the crash afterwards and the paranoia that runs through my head near the end. I did figure out my desire for relationships stem from the desire to for affection; but eh, my desire for security of mind is more important to me. Barely.
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Post by TrueBlue© on Jun 6, 2008 12:40:20 GMT -5
Oh, please. I don't think you've ever been the only bi guy on here, Veros. Them's dime a dozen. e_e
But I'm gonna have to vaguely agree with him here. Relationships are really nothing but trouble. Seeing as you're already in a serious one(two?), focus on staying true to them, and try to control yourself, for your own sanity and everyone else's. o.o
Like This One said, though, we're definitely not professionals. =D
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Enigma
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Entropy will always Triumph!
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Post by Enigma on Jun 6, 2008 13:11:40 GMT -5
Veros does have a point, and I know I should stay out of this convo, but still, paranoia can destroy the greatest of us all.
If it does go to hell, it can mess up just about everything you worked so hard to attain if you ask me, but here I am, saying all this, when I have destroyed just about all of my relationships. All in all, there are some advantages I suppose. Someone to talk to, someone to relate and have close.... Hahaha.. i'm going to shut up now.
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Post by Beanybag on Jun 6, 2008 13:36:51 GMT -5
Yes, Ima try to control myself, for my girlfriend's sake. @_@
Flirting needs to be less fun. Dx Hopefully it'll get easy when I'm not so loaded up on hormones...
But thanks everyone, really.
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