Friend going down the worst path

[Lyn Maliodis]

my friend has been hanging out with the worst possible crowd lately & even though i may get banned for saying this i'm going to saying it. The crowd she hangs with now are sluts, they do drugs & are planning on dropping out of school, & they plan on taking her with them. Some of them don't go to school for example there's a 7 year old among them that steals & does drugs also. I've tried everything so far to help her get away from them but it only lasts for so many days. I do have a solution for it but it's kind of a last ditch effort & it's extremely dangerous, cause i'm the type of person that keeps his word & goes through with pretty much anything unless it was a joke, so anyone willing to offer some advice? I'm begging for help i'll do anything to help her get away from them.

[Beanybag]

Some things can't be helped...have a serious conversation with her, if she won't change, then she'll find out the hard way what happens when you drop out of school to do drugs. Don't force anything on her or do anything dangerous. Just support/help her if you can, not a lot more that you can do. And sluts are just a normal part of life =\

[This One]

I agree with Beany; she's old enough to know the consequences of those kinds of actions, so this should be her decision, not yours. You shouldn't try to force her to change, since that will more than likely only result in her rejecting you altogether. I'm not saying that her actions are necessarily good, but you can't go around choosing other people's friends.

I also agree that you should talk to her. Don't be forceful or criticizing; just tell her that you're worried about her safety with this new group of peers (not using words like "slut", of course). If you're as worried as you sound, talk to a guidance counselor, etc.

[EJP]

Don't worry about getting banned for saying someone is a slut without giving them a name. I've said my sister is a slut on this site and I wasn't banned for that. If I was well..... Ninmast would have alot of explaining to do.

I understand your problem and the only thing I can say is, abandon them or burn them. By "burn them" I don't mean getting a gas can and taking a lighter to them. What I mean is, if you know they are doing drugs or something illegal (I don't know about your state/whatever but in California it is illegal for anyone under 18 years old to have sex) get them busted. Find proof and then have them get busted in some way; example police, parents, school people, or public humiliation (but that can back fire in more ways than one). Learning the hard way is the only way some people learn. However, you are better off just ditching them. Once they are on drugs, its going to be near impossiable to get them off of drugs.